Mom

Hi friends. It’s been a couple months since I shared an update post. That isn’t uncommon when construction is in a phase where lots of work happens but nothing really shows for it. We however, had just gotten to the part where we were getting ready for drywall and I thought I’d be showing you an “almost ready to move in” post by now. Life happens though, and boy did life really throw us a curve ball.

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On March 2, we found out that our mom had a very advanced, aggressive tumor in her brain. (glioblastoma) Julie and I immediately purchased flights to go to Idaho the next day. We closed up the building and told all our helpers that we’d be gone indefinitely. We wanted to spend as much time with mom and our family as we could before the tumor took her from us. We expected/hoped for a couple weeks.

Every day was filled with whatever would bring her joy: music, family, games, family… She had lots of visitors because EVERYONE loved my mom. People came from far and wide to visit with Mom and Dad, tell stories and get one last hug. We celebrated all the holidays for the year and threw in some extra “talent shows” and even a pajama party. She loved her family SO much. Her whole countenance would light up when someone else came through the door.

Mom kept saying, “today was another best day ever”!

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Pajama Party: Not everyone came in pajamas but Mom, Julie and I rocked ours, pigtails and all!

Over the weeks, she took more naps and we had smaller, scheduled visits rather than big parties! One night we had a little dance party. Mom and dad mostly watched us try to learn how to do some Swing moves and trip over ourselves attempting to “line dance”. Mom asked us to find “The Last Dance” and we went through several versions of the wrong song before we found what she was looking for. She and Dad had their last dance that night.

This December would be their 60 anniversary.

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We got five wonderful weeks with mom. She passed away peacefully on April 6.

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Dad, me and my 8 surviving siblings: Rollin, Gene, Julie, Bo, Sid, Cindy Jodi, Jenny

I wanted to write more about what a wonderful woman she was; so accomplished, talented, unselfish, loving and HAPPY. I wanted to write about all the ways she and Dad helped shape the person I am today. But it’s too hard.

I’m really grateful that I had the ability to drop everything and go spend that time with my mom and family. Those are cherished memories.

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Now I’m back in Tennessee and getting the B&B reno back on track. I’m doing pretty well. I have sad moments/days but I try not to let myself get stuck there. Sometimes I have to force myself to laugh out loud for ten full seconds. It’s something Mom taught us. (It is best to warn those around you before you begin. They tend to look your way- very concerned!) 🙂

Onward and upward.

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84 Comments

  1. My thoughts are with you. It’s a tough time for you. My mom died in 2006 and thankfully I only have happy thoughts now.

  2. Oh. Love to you and family.

  3. Dear Sawdustgirl,
    I am so sorry to hear about your family’s lost. It was good to hear you had time to spend together.
    I hope you and your family know shes in a good place.
    Have a blessed day!
    Drew

  4. Suzan Macey says:

    I am so sorry for your loss. Especially as the first Mother’s Day approaches.
    No matter the gender of the child, there is nothing like the bond between a mother and child. I believe it has something to do with the 9 months before birth that makes that bond so special, and no matter how many talks through the belly, or tummy rubs can change that bond.
    I believe the first year is the toughest as you experience all the first without your mother. There will be moments that you catch yourself reaching for the phone because you want to tell her something special, funny, irritating, or just hear her voice. Those times will eventually fade, and the pain will subside. (It never goes away, and when you least expect it you find the wound wide open again.) After a time has past, I hope you will find yourself talking to her. It will keep her close, and I whole heartedly believe that their body may be gone, but their spirt is here and listening.
    One last thing, when the time is right (and only you will know) remember to tell stories about things she did, how she would take time to teach you something, something that she loved, etc. It keeps them close, and as long as someone remembers them, they never totally go away.
    Again, I am sorry for your loss, but so happy you loved her so much as to know the short time she had left was worth putting your life on hold.
    Sincerely,
    suZ

  5. Beverley L. says:

    My condolences to you and your family. Glad you had time to spend with your Mom and have so much more to add to the memory bank. I am sure your mom was proud of you.

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